If you’re in the early stages of a relationship, there is always pressure around Thanksgiving.  Should you both go to one family’s event, split between two, or go your own separate ways.  How can you keep your match from being grilled by Uncle Terry?  One bedroom or two.

Forget all of that.  Overload on communication and all of that hubbub will play itself out.

Instead, focus on how you are going to make a “memory” out of this Thanksgiving. What is the shared experience or tradition that you will share with your match that you will remember next week, next year and for years to come?  We’re still a few weeks away, so you have plenty of time to plan the memory.  It could be a intimate dinner the Tuesday before Thanksgiving that becomes and annual event. It could be a handwritten note capturing what you are thankful about him/her.  It could be some shared volunteer time with those less fortunate.  In ten years, neither of you will remember if someone accidentally insulted Aunt Jenny’s pumpkin pie or if someone got put on the spot by a good-intentioned older brother — what you will remember is a shared experience that celebrated thankfulness, gratitude, and your blossoming love as a couple.